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A Good Man Is Hard To Find

As a culture goes further down the road to depravity, a good man is hard to find. The more a nation drifts away from the Judeo-Christian values the more it will slide down the slippery slope of sin into corruption. “Righteousness makes a nation great but sin diminishes a people.” Proverbs 14:34 (ISV) We read of King Asa in II Chronicles 14:1-3 demonstrating the characteristics of a good man. “So Abijah rested with his fathers and they buried him in the city of David. Then Asa, his son, reigned in his place. In his days the land was quiet for ten years. And Asa did what was good and right in the eyes of the Lord, for he removed the altars of the foreign gods, and the high places, and broke down the sacred pillars and cut down the wooden images.”

A good man will experience QUIET in his home when he does what is good and right in the eyes of the Lord. If the home is quiet, there is good reason, there will be peace in the home. And a good man who fears the Lord is one who has the peace of the Lord in his own heart. His trust is in the Lord. “Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on Thee; because he trusteth in Thee.” Isaiah 26:3 He is in peace with a steadfast mind seeking first the kingdom of God. Matthew 6:33, Colossians 3:2

He is in peace because of an untainted, unpolluted walk. “Blessed are the undefiled in the way, who walk in the law of the Lord.” Psalm 119:1 He undoubtedly is a good man. One who is hard to find. “For the eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth to show Himself strong on behalf of those whose heart is loyal to Him…” II Chronicles 16:9 We who are men are blessed if we have, by the grace of God, walked in such a way as to be called ‘a good man’.

A spirit-filled woman of God will always search for a spirit-filled man of God. She will settle for nothing less for she knows the peace of her home depends on this. She knows the difference between a form of godliness and the actual witness of a real man of God. Many men who have left the ways of God are filled with their lusts. “…lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having a form of godliness but denying its power. And from such people turn away!” II Timothy 3:4-5 Alas, many women have fallen into this trap. They have fallen for men who had the face of a Christian but ended up being wolves in sheep’s clothing. We see a flood of men pursuing everything but peace in the home. Abandoning virtue, morality and fidelity in the home is a work of devastation. The bombing of the home with such foolishness leaves death and destruction. Morality is a pillar of the home. I recall G.K. Chesterton’s words; “Morality is a lot like art; you’ve got to draw a line somewhere.”

It is the flooding of a godless culture that has removed the lodestone of morality which attracts men to righteousness. Short story author and novelist, Flannery O’Connor, wrote of people who were corrupt and freakish in a terrible way. She does not speak of human depravity in the abstract. She writes of it in reality in her fiction works. She was asked once why she wrote about freaks. Her answer; “If Southern writers have a tendency to write about freaks it is because we are still able to recognize one.”

Sadly, many are living in freakish aberrations and no one is calling it what it is. Sin is out and therapy is in. There is little culpability for one’s behavior. Therefore, a good man is hard to find; a genuine spirit-filled man of God. “…But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” Joshua 24:15 If you are not a good man of God and your home is troubled, repent! Ask God to make you into a good man. Your family is longing for you to be one. The peace of the home is desperately needed.

God bless you as you seek to become a good man!